Others peoples stuff is not always your stuff

Feb 28, 2019, 4:37 PM

The book Think and Grow Rich says that controlling your mind helps to control your destiny in your life. It says a lot about spiritual currency in a way that I have often struggled with thinking that speaking up would help me when others came to me because there was an injustice. I found that when I spoke up those who had came to me would get quiet and I became the “bad guy“ in the person's eyes I was being honest with. I’ve realized over time that many of us who feel that we need to always say what’s going on as a matter of transparency often feel rejected or used. Most personalities who are like this are givers and will be there for our loved ones during the tough times and often during the good times we're so stressed that we often open our mouths and are seen as the "big mouth". We ask “Do they really know my heart"? I was told this frustration from a family member or even if it’s a work or social situation and I am just speaking up because inside I know this is bothering the person who’s sitting next to me about the person I am speaking to “. Does that sound familiar to you? I am finding that if someone can’t speak up for themselves and they come to you the best thing to do is say “Listen, as much as you want me to listen and as much as I love you and would do anything to release your hurt it’s not mine to release nor do I feel that me saying it would help. I can set up a meeting and hold space so you can share how you feel but I cannot express something if you're not willing to express it. The fact that your not willing to express it tells me that you aren’t ready to communicate with this other person and I would suggest sitting with it and letting it process in and out of the anger and frustration filter inside of you". If they answer that they are willing to speak up then by all means offer to set a time to talk with the other person and let this person bring up what’s going on, but say nothing. Don’t get attached ....this is what has gotten you there in the first place. Look inside and ask yourself what you might be avoiding. Perhaps you have placed your self worth on what you mean to others and not to yourself. You DO matter and how you feel matters. You feel misunderstood and the first step is in understanding your own feelings and thoughts. If you don’t do this you will become hurt, feel abandoned, and become resentful of others because you will becomes emotionally worn down. Imagine in the morning you are filling up your gas tank with your own tasks for the day. Then there will be more peace and discernment for you in your life. It’s not easy to make this change.  You might have to stay away from those you love for a while and they will understand if they love you because they will know that you're working on loving who you are. I bet they will even say to you “ I am so glad your not intermingling yourself in everyone else’s stuff “. I can personally say that I am working on this and finding that I am able to see myself more clearer and value the time I have and hope to create more precious time for those I do love that doesn’t involve just fixing and included just being 📷️.  Les Brown's book Think and Grow Rich May sounds like he’s saying just think and fill your pockets with money but he’s talking about a different currency. It’s a deeper peace that comes in stilling the mind and remembering that your emotions and physical body are directly connected. For me getting angry creates emotional drain and it doesn’t serve me. The truth is that there are some people you just can’t change and you can learn to accept who they are or move on. The same goes with people who might not like your company. These people aren’t meant to be in your circle of comfort for you. Detox the mind and find peace and stillness within! I love you all and hope this will help you as much as it has helped me.

Love,

Kimmie

XOXO 

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